my heart goes out to you / Rose Tainui (just passing threw )Read >>
my heart goes out to you / Rose Tainui (just passing threw )
i read your story about your darling daughter and it almost had me in tears please no that my love and thoughts go out to you all. take comfort in knowing that god had bigger plans for your darling angel and in saying that, the strengh and courage she showed the world for that short time gives us all hope that if she could do it then maybe the world has a chance.and again im so sorry for your loss. rosemarie tainui hokitka new zealand..... Close
My condolences... / Sofia Sammarco (none)
My name is Sofia Sammarco and I am 15 years old. I was surfing the internet and I came across theis site. I would just like to say I am very sorry for your loss. Vanessa was a beautiful little girl. Her life story touched me deeply and had me in tears. I think you are all wonderfully brave people and I wish you the very best of luck for the future.
same name and birthday / Liana Taylor (none, just a random search )
I was doing some random searches online and found your tribune to Vanessa. It is a very touching story. I'm glad that she had such supportive parents and I'm glad you had the strength and faith to have another child. Interestingly my name is also Liana, just like her, and I was also born on July 30th only in 1986. I thought that was a rather odd coincidence since I don't generally meet that many Lianas. Best of luck to your family, your children are gourgeous!
What a beautiful tribute to your precious Vanessa / Dawn Hanson (visitor)Read >>
What a beautiful tribute to your precious Vanessa / Dawn Hanson (visitor)
To precious Vanessa' family:
What a beautiful tribute to your little angel. My heart goes out to you all - for all the memories you are missing. I should be happy I had my son for 25 years - before he was taken from us. I could just feel the love in your story - it was like you were sitting here with me. Just know that your family will all be together again one day. I'm sure she has millions of angels looking after her. God bless you... Close
This is a wonderful tribute to Vanessa / Andrea Mercier Read >>
This is a wonderful tribute to Vanessa / Andrea Mercier
I have been extremely touched by your story and offer my sincere condolences. I am sitting at my computer in tears but feeling the love you all gave Vanessa. She looks peaceful in the photos and I think that the love and attention you gave her while she graced the earth was amazing and I truly believe it gave her the strength to stay alive for as long as she did. She is beautiful and you should be very proud of the family you have created. I found out about this website from the ABS Support Website. My 2.5 yr old has her left hand affected by ABS, she has only a thumb. What I have noticed is that children affected not only by ABS but anything medical have such strong positive natures. I know Vanessa is in heaven being looked after and no longer in pain, and I think you have done a wonderful thing by creating this website for her. I just feel so much love in this website and I feel really happy for her and pray for you and your family. Stay strong, look after yourself and your other kids (which are also gorgeous), and keep Vanessa's memory alive. Sincerely Andrea. Close
A young man in Tears ... / Mischa Hauser (none)Read >>
A young man in Tears ... / Mischa Hauser (none)
First of all my condolences... I am sorry for my english, because i am dutch. I am not the kind of guy who gets easily emotional, but this story broke my heart... I can not imagine how hard it has to be to deal with something like this. I wish you guys all the best and luck for the rest of you lives and trust me, there is a little cloud in the sky where your angel is watching an waiting for you, untill the day the whole family will be one again !
I know how you feel / Misty Miller (no relation )Read >>
I know how you feel / Misty Miller (no relation )
Hi, This is a beautiful way to show the world just how blessed we all are to have such beautiful angels watching over us. I came upon this by way of the ABS support group. My nephew has ABS, not very severe. Your story touched me because neither one of my nephew's parents want him! We think it is because of his "differences" , we only see our precious baby boy. I too, lost a child, a baby girl! She will be 5 in Dec. and it is truly touching to know that there are others out there who understand. No one here seems to understand that she was my child! No one counts her when you ask how many children ( grandchildren, neices, etc.) I bake a cake for her every year on her birthday and light a candle in her memory on every holiday and even have her picture on my "family" wall and everyone thinks I am crazy. It's soooooo nice to know that your little Vannessa is still a part of your family, even if she's held only in your heart! Only a mother that has lost a child can understand that this is the worst pain anyone can ever feel and may God bless you for being a FAMILY!!!! Vanessa, you are one lucky little girl, to have felt the love of these wonderful people! Close
LOVE YOU! / BARBARA PARTINGTON (GRANDMOTHER)
YOU ARE IN MY THOUGHTS EVERY DAY. ONCE IN A WHILE I CAN STILL SMELL YOUR PRECIOUS FRAGRANCE. LITTLE ONE, I HOPE YOUR GREAT GRANDMOTHER IS WATCHING OVER YOU. KISSES AND HUGS, GRANDMA Close
Hi Sweet Pea It's Aunt Linda / Aunt Linda
Hi Sweet Pea I'm sitting at your Grannie's house and I'm thinking about how much I love you and miss you. You are the most special person I have ever met sweet girl, and I love you for that. I love you for all the closeness that you brought to our family, especially how much love you have brought to your mommy. She loves you more than any words could ever express. You have taught us the true meaning of unconditional love. I promise I will write to you more often. I haven't ignored you sweet pea, I've just been too sad in my heart and your Aunt Linda is a big cry-baby everytime she looks at your pictures. I love you sweetness, Aunt Linda . Close
I miss you.... / Mommy
As I sit here and type this I have your picture here beside me. My beautiful sweet baby girl. I am so happy that you came to me. I can't imagine my life if you had not been in it. You are such a big part of my life and who I have become. I have your love and your memory locked safely within my heart.
I'm going to go out and get something for your garden today. Maybe a new garden statue and some new plants. I'll find something special for you sweet pea.
I wish I could hold you in my arms. I know you know how much I love you. I can feel you around me and in my heart always. Rest gently in the arms of the angels my love, until I come for you.
I will love you and miss you for the rest of my life Vanessa.
She will live forever / Viviane
Vanessa was so beautiful and strong. I have a firm belief that we are born here for a reason and maybe her reason was too big for our world. However I´m not a believer in death. I believe that when our body is too old and sick it lets us free to continue on our journey- to better places. Vanessa will always be with you. She´s your little angel watching you go on living day by day untill you finally meet again.
You also gave her a gift of life, she chose to come to you. You called for her. You also gave her the freedom to go when it was her time to go. She needed your love and strenght all along.
From The Little Prince,author Antoine de Saínt-Exupéry. ´I shall look as if I were dead and it will not be true...´ I said nothing. ´You must understand. It is too far. I cannot carry this body with me. It is too heavy.´ I said nothing. ´It will look like an old abandoned shell...Not anything to be sad about...´ I said nothing. Close
I am so sorry for your loss of your precious little girl. Vanessa has touched my heart and soul, you did a great job with this site. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers as Vanessa's heaven date aproaches. I too loss a daughter, but it was different circumstances, our daugher was born at 25 weeks gestation. she lived for 23 days, we love and miss her too. I understand your pain as we have to face each day without our daughters. Although we do have good days and our bad days we have learned a lot. We have our Memories in our hearts forever and no one can take those away. Our daughters have taught us many things that it is hard to explain to people, but we understand each other. Thanks for sharing your daughter with me. Sending Lots of Love and Prayers The Bettes Family Jessica, Mark, Alex ~Destiny Paige~ Born 3-25-02 Earned her Wings 4-17-2002 "Some People Only Dream Of ANGELS We Held One In Our ARMS" www.angelfire.com/ks3/destinypaige
Here is A poem I wrote I would Love to share with you
A Child Loaned
I'll lend you for a time
A Child of mine he said,
For you to Love while she lives,
And Mourn for her when she's dead.
It may be six or seven years,
Or Twenty-three or four.
But will you till I call her back,
Take care of her for me?
She'll bring you charms to gladden you
And should her stay for a brief time,
You'll have her lovely memories
As comfort for your grief/
I can not promise she will stay
Since all From earth shall return,
But there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn.
I've looked this wide world over
In search for teachers true.
And from the throngs that crowd lifes lanes,
I have selected you.
Now will you give her all your love
Nor think the labor Vain?
Nor hate me when I come to call
To take her back again?
I fancied that I heard them say:
Dear Lord, Thy will be done.
For all the joys this child does bring
The risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter her with tenderness,
We'll love her while we may,
And for all the happiness we've know
Forever grateful stay.
But should the angels call for her
Much sooner than we planned,
We/ll brave the bitter grief that comes.....
And Try to Understand
In Loving Memory of Destiny Paige Bettes Written by Jess
HAPPY BIRTHDAY VANESSA LANE!!! / Mommy
Happy Birthday sweetheart! I wish you were here to celebrate. I wish I could give you a big birthday kiss and hug. I can't believe that it was three years ago that you came into this world. The time I shared with you was the most cherished and precious moments of my life. You are always in my heart and I love you so much. I miss you baby girl. One day mommy will be with you and I will hold you in my arms and kiss your sweet face. I will love you forever and always Vanessa. XOXOXOXO Love, Mommy Close
My sweet baby girl... / Mommy
Mommy's sweet little baby girl...... I miss you so much. Your birthday is in 2 days. I can't believe you would have been turning three! It feels like it was yesterday that I lost you,,, but it seems like an eternity since I've held you. I know that one day I will see you and hold you again. I believe that with all of my heart. Until then, I'll see you in my dreams sweet baby. XOXOXO Love always and forever, ~Mommy~ Close
Similar circumstances / Visitor
I am so sorry for your loss. I do know almost exactly what you have experienced. Thirty years ago,(could it really be so long, it seems like last year!), I gave birth prematurely to an anaencephalic girl. Her skull had never formed, nor did her brain except the brain stem. The slang term for those babies was "frog babies" in reference to the shape of their heads. I don't know for I was never allowed to see my Shayney. They told me she was still born, and I did not find out til weeks later that she had lived for one and one half hours. She was my first child. At that time they did things differently and I guess they thought they were "protecting" me by telling me she was born dead. To this day I regret that I never got to see her or hold her. She was also spina bifada (open spine). The only thing I got was a little birth certificate with her tiny little foot prints. I know your heart will always ache for Vanessa. No matter if we have a dozen, there is always a void there that is never filled. Cherish your photos and your memories. God Bless. Close
2 beautiful 4 earth / Maria (cousin)
dear vanessa your passing effected my life more than anything has.Ive wrote you poems and prayed for you,thought of you constantly ,and hope you know your cousin maria was here for you.i think of you every time i look at liana and know how much you to look so much alike,i know your here with all of us. i love you honey many more prayers for you always. Close