same name and birthday  / Liana Taylor (none, just a random search )
I was doing some random searches online and found your tribune to Vanessa. It is a very touching story. I'm glad that she had such supportive parents and I'm glad you had the strength and faith to have another child. Interestingly my name is also Liana, just like her, and I was also born on July 30th only in 1986. I thought that was a rather odd coincidence since I don't generally meet that many Lianas. Best of luck to your family, your children are gourgeous! ~Liana Close

What a beautiful tribute to your precious Vanessa  / Dawn Hanson (visitor)
To precious Vanessa' family: What a beautiful tribute to your little angel. My heart goes out to you all - for all the memories you are missing. I should be happy I had my son for 25 years - before he was taken from us. I could just feel the love in your story - it was like you were sitting here with me. Just know that your family will all be together again one day. I'm sure she has millions of angels looking after her. God bless you... Close

This is a wonderful tribute to Vanessa  / Andrea Mercier
I have been extremely touched by your story and offer my sincere condolences. I am sitting at my computer in tears but feeling the love you all gave Vanessa. She looks peaceful in the photos and I think that the love and attention you gave her while she graced the earth was amazing and I truly believe it gave her the strength to stay alive for as long as she did.  She is beautiful and you should be very proud of the family you have created.  I found out about this website from the ABS Support Website.  My 2.5 yr old has her left hand affected by ABS, she has only a thumb.  What I have noticed is that children affected not only by ABS but anything medical have such  strong positive natures. I know Vanessa  is in heaven being looked after and no longer in pain, and I think you have done a wonderful thing by creating this website for her.  I just feel so much love in this website and I feel really happy for her and pray for you and your family.  Stay strong, look after yourself and your other kids (which are also gorgeous), and keep Vanessa's  memory alive.
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A young man in Tears ...  / Mischa Hauser (none)
First of all my condolences...
I am sorry for my english, because i am dutch.
I am not the kind of guy who gets easily emotional, but this story broke my heart... I can not imagine how hard it has to be to deal with something like this. I wish you guys all the best and luck for the rest of you lives and trust me, there is a little cloud in the sky where your angel is watching an waiting for you, untill the day the whole family will be one again !

I wish jou the very best !!!

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I know how you feel  / Misty Miller (no relation )
Hi,
This is a beautiful way to show the world just how blessed we all are to have such beautiful angels watching over us. I came upon this by way of the ABS support group. My nephew has ABS, not very severe. Your story touched me because neither one of my nephew's parents want him! We think it is because of his "differences" , we only see our precious baby boy. I too, lost a child, a baby girl! She will be 5 in Dec. and it is truly touching to know that there are others out there who understand. No one here seems to understand that she was my child! No one counts her when you ask how many children ( grandchildren, neices, etc.) I bake a cake for her every year on her birthday and light a candle in her memory on every holiday and even have her picture on my "family" wall and everyone thinks I am crazy. It's soooooo nice to know that your little Vannessa is still a part of your family, even if she's held only in your heart! Only a mother that has lost a child can understand that this is the worst pain anyone can ever feel and may God bless you for being a FAMILY!!!! Vanessa, you are one lucky little girl, to have felt the love of these wonderful people! Close

LOVE YOU!  / BARBARA PARTINGTON (GRANDMOTHER)
     YOU ARE IN MY THOUGHTS EVERY DAY. ONCE IN A WHILE I CAN STILL SMELL YOUR PRECIOUS FRAGRANCE. LITTLE ONE, I HOPE YOUR GREAT GRANDMOTHER IS WATCHING OVER YOU. KISSES AND HUGS, GRANDMA Close

Hi Sweet Pea It's Aunt Linda  / Aunt Linda
Hi Sweet Pea
I'm sitting at your Grannie's house and I'm thinking about how much I love you and miss you. You are the most special person I have ever met sweet girl, and I love you for that. I love you for all the closeness that you brought to our family, especially how much love you have brought to your mommy. She loves you more than any words could ever express. You have taught us the true meaning of unconditional love. I promise I will write to you more often. I haven't ignored you sweet pea, I've just been too sad in my heart and your Aunt Linda is a big cry-baby everytime she looks at your pictures. I love you sweetness, Aunt Linda
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I miss you....  / Mommy
As I sit here and type this I have your picture here beside me. My beautiful sweet baby girl. I am so happy that you came to me. I can't imagine my life if you had not been in it. You are such a big part of my life and who I have become. I have your love and your memory locked safely within my heart.

I'm going to go out and get something for your garden today. Maybe a new garden statue and some new plants. I'll find something special for you sweet pea.

I wish I could hold you in my arms. I know you know how much I love you. I can feel you around me and in my heart always. Rest gently in the arms of the angels my love, until I come for you.

I will love you and miss you for the rest of my life Vanessa.

Love Always and Forever,
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She will live forever  / Viviane
Vanessa was so beautiful and strong. I have a firm belief that we are born here for a reason and maybe her reason was too big for our world. However I´m not a believer in death. I believe that when our body is too old and sick it lets us free to continue on our journey- to better places.
Vanessa will always be with you. She´s your little angel watching you go on living day by day untill you finally meet again.

You also gave her a gift of life, she chose to come to you. You called for her. You also gave her the freedom to go when it was her time to go.
She needed your love and strenght all along.

From The Little Prince,author Antoine de Saínt-Exupéry.
´I shall look as if I were dead and it will not be true...´
I said nothing.
´You must understand. It is too far. I cannot carry this body with me. It is too heavy.´
I said nothing.
´It will look like an old abandoned shell...Not anything to be sad about...´
I said nothing.
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A little Note  / Jessica Bettes (Visitor)

I am so sorry for your loss of your precious little girl. Vanessa has touched my heart and soul, you did a great job with this site. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers as Vanessa's heaven date aproaches. I too loss a daughter, but it was different circumstances, our daugher was born at 25 weeks gestation. she lived for 23 days, we love and miss her too.  I understand your pain as we have to face each day without our daughters. Although we do have good days and our bad days we have learned a lot.  We have our Memories in our hearts forever and no one can take those away. Our daughters have taught us many things that it is hard to explain to people, but we understand each other. Thanks for sharing your daughter with me.
Sending Lots of Love and Prayers
The Bettes Family
Jessica, Mark, Alex
~Destiny Paige~
Born
3-25-02
Earned her Wings
4-17-2002
"Some People Only Dream Of ANGELS We Held One In Our ARMS"
www.angelfire.com/ks3/destinypaige

Here is A poem I wrote I would Love to share with you

A Child Loaned   I'll lend you for a time A Child of mine he said, For you to Love while she lives, And Mourn for her when she's dead. It may be six or seven years, Or Twenty-three or four. But will you till I call her back, Take care of her for me? She'll bring you charms to gladden  you And should her stay for a brief  time, You'll have her lovely memories As comfort for your grief/ I can not promise she will stay Since all From earth shall return, But there are lessons taught down there I want this child to learn. I've looked this wide world over In search for teachers true. And from the throngs that crowd lifes lanes, I have selected you. Now will you give her all  your love Nor think the labor Vain? Nor hate me when I come to call To take her back again? I fancied that I heard them say: Dear Lord, Thy will be done. For all the joys this child does bring The risk of grief we'll run. We'll shelter her with tenderness, We'll love her while we may, And for all the happiness we've know Forever grateful stay. But should the angels call for her Much sooner than we planned, We/ll brave the bitter grief that comes..... And Try to Understand   In Loving Memory of Destiny Paige Bettes
Written by  Jess

 

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY VANESSA LANE!!!  / Mommy
Happy Birthday sweetheart! I wish you were here to celebrate. I wish I could give you a big birthday kiss and hug. I can't believe that it was three years ago that you came into this world. The time I shared with you was the most cherished and  precious moments of my life. You are always in my heart and I love you so much. I miss you baby girl. One day mommy will be with you and I will hold you in my arms and kiss your sweet face.  I will love you forever and always Vanessa.
XOXOXOXO
Love,
Mommy
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My sweet baby girl...  / Mommy
Mommy's sweet little baby girl...... I miss you so much. Your birthday is in 2 days. I can't believe you would have been turning three! It feels like it was yesterday that I lost you,,, but it seems like an eternity since I've held you. I know that one day I will see you and hold you again. I believe that with all of my heart. Until then, I'll see you in my dreams sweet baby.
XOXOXO
Love always and forever,
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Similar circumstances  / Visitor
I am so sorry for your loss. I do know almost exactly what you have experienced. Thirty years ago,(could it really be so long, it seems like last year!), I gave birth prematurely to an anaencephalic girl. Her skull had never formed, nor did her brain except the brain stem. The slang term for those babies was "frog babies" in reference to the shape of their heads. I don't know for I was never allowed to see my Shayney. They told me she was still born, and I did not find out til weeks later that she had lived for one and one half hours. She was my first child. At that time they did things differently and I guess they thought they were "protecting" me by telling me she was born dead. To this day I regret that I never got to see her or hold her. She was also spina bifada (open spine). The only thing I got was a little birth certificate with her tiny little foot prints.
 I know your heart will always ache for Vanessa. No matter if we have a dozen, there is always a void there that is never filled. Cherish your photos and your memories.  God Bless. Close

2 beautiful 4 earth  / Maria (cousin)
dear vanessa   your passing effected my life more than anything has.Ive wrote you poems and prayed for you,thought of you constantly ,and hope you know your cousin maria was here for you.i think of you every time i look at liana and know how much you to look so much alike,i know your here with all of us. i love you honey many more prayers for you always. Close

Looking At Your Picture Today Little One...  / Aunt Linda
Looking at your picture today little one always reminds me of why it is so important to let our family know that we are thinking of them and that we care about their lives. Your cousins Maria and David and I miss you more each and every day. You were here for just a tragically brief moment in time, but those moments have changed me forever. I dearly love you sweet pea, and I want you to know that everytime I look at your big sister Kaelyn, I see your face. Kaelyn always tells me just how much she misses you and loves you. You are blessed little one. I Love You Forever and Always, Aunt Linda Close

Waiting in God's arms until you are together again  / Theresa (LHC)
I am so very, very sorry for you loss of this special little girl. Thank you for sharing her story. As a Mommy I cannot begin to fathom the pain you and your family have been though. I can only wish you peace in your hearts, and happiness in the faith that you will be with Vanessa again one day. Blesss you all.
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Heaven gained another Angel  / Georgy
What a beautiful baby girl, I am so very sorry for your loss.
This is the most difficult thing for mother to endure.
I have a little one waiting for me in heaven too.
God bless you and your family.

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And on the 7th day she rested.  / Robert PurpleBubba
Barbara, This is Robert / PurpleBubba from The Hair Care Family site. Thank you for sharing this link with us. A few days ago my Grandmother passed away. She was 89. That's a lot longer than 6 days. I was recently watching the movie Inherit The Wind for the first time and there's a part where Spencer Tracy is talking about how when God made the Earth that those first day or days there wasn't a sun. He said something like how do we know how long those 6 days were? Couldn't they have lasted millions of years? And I wanted to say that whether it was 6 days or 89 years either way it lasted a lifetime. A beautiful lifetime. I'm not a church goer or of any particular religion. But I know Angels exist. And I really want to thank you for giving me just a little more proof. Vanessa comes from a family of Angels. And she never left that family. It's kinda like she grew up too soon and moved away. In time you'll get to see her again. Her body just couldn't hold all of the love she had to share. So she found a way. A way to spread her love. This site is her way. Now she can touch us all. Thank you. Close

ANGEL BABY I LOVE YOU / DANIELLE (COUSIN)
 Vanessa I just wanted to let you know that my heart hurts everyday when I think about you but I always have to remind myself that  even though I cant see you I no that you are always there by my side I love you with all my heart more than words can ever describe.           LOVE ALWAYS AND FOREVER ,YOUR COUSIN DANIELLE. Close

What a beautiful little girl. / Kristin Cardwell
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Vanessa was a little angel, and I'm so glad you had the time with her that you did. What a lucky girl to have a family like yours to care for her. Close